Loss of a loved one is never easy. Knowing that death is inevitable and completely out of your control is really discouraging to any human being. There's a level of hurt, anger and maybe even fear that comes with losing someone. When it comes to our elders, we wish they could live forever and that we can have the chance to see them whenever we choose, but that isn't reality. As we get older, they too are getting older.
Time is a bandit that will never be captured, never be stopped. In short, I am glad to have spent my summers with the lovely lady in this photo. Now, being a SAHM myself, she was an amazing example of a wife, mother and human being. She was beautiful, strong and fearless. Loved with all her might with both tenderness and fair and swift punishment. She was a giver and a lover of nature... only killed ONE spider for biting her one day LOL, but usually would grab a napkin and take spiders of every size outside. We, her grandkids, were upset with that spider just as much as she was LOL! After all the times she carried y'all outside and spared your life and you gon up and decide to bite her?? That spider must've been new around the house🤔😆
I remember getting stung by a wasp and grandma simply grabbed some Noxema and rubbed it on the sting and continued taking care of her home. So chill and nonchalant. I too am the same way with my children. I just simply say, "What happened this time?", and do what needs to be done. She was accustomed to children getting injured. It just came with the territory so she never freaked out. The Noxema didn't actually help, though. Elders truly believe in their healing methods, LOL!!
Although she was gentle with spiders, unfortunately, for flies, they would swiftly meet their end if they came in the house. Like WHY were they created anyway?
Grandma Ozella, I can go on and on about my time spent under your care and guidance for many summers. I can recall many hilarious stories. I can recall the many Sunday services where we all put on our Sunday best. Fun memories indeed.
On the surface you were all the things mentioned before. But I have always known that if we were to dig deeper, you, like so many women, concealed many scars, hurt, burden, pain, regrets, history... Thank you for being strong for your family. I am so glad to have had you as an amazing influence in my life. I hope you are somewhere at peace enjoying yourself. Maybe you are in your garden watching things grow. Maybe you are watching your favorite soap operas sitting back relaxing and eating Black-eyed peas and buttery cornbread. Maybe you are with the children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren that you lost before you died and sharing stories and celebrating. I hope you are in a peaceful place. A place where you don't have to be anything for others anymore. A place where you no longer have to be strong. I hope you are in a beautiful place where you are free to simply be.
Rest in great honor, Queen O!
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